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Speak up against verbal abuse

SPEAK
UP

I AM GOING TO START TO TELL THIS STORY BY IT'S END.

I SET BOUNDARIES. HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.

IT MAKES ME FEEL A LOT SAFER OF WHAT I USED TO!

LEARNING TO DO THIS HAS BEEN AN ENJOYABLE PROCESS, AND NOT A PAIN, SINCE I DECIDED TO TRAIN FOR IT

THIS HAS BEEN SUCH A FUN A LIBERATING JOURNEY FOR ME

AND YOURS CAN BE TOO!

(AND NOW... READ ON) 

Have you ever stayed up during the night thinking on the reply you did not give to someone who attacked you verbally?

You can learn a way to set clear boundaries and defend yourself against verbal attacks, so next time this happens you know exactly what to do and say.

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Be able to give instant and clear feedback about what made you feel uncomfortable.

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Learn to identify, handle and deal with harasment, to feel safer in your everyday life.

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You can teach others how you need to be treated, and stop verbal abuse.

Defend yourself from verbal abuse and harrasment

Have you experienced self-blame because when you did not react as you would have liked to to those situations, but you then realise what you would have wanted to have said some hours or days later? There are many people all over the world who are having the same experience!

You may know someone who although they do not look particularly assertive, is capable of setting healthy boundaries, managing toxic people and keeping their own personal and emotional space drama-free, as they gracefully get people to understand what is it that they want.

They know how to set those boundaries and avoid a conflict escalating in a way that looks effortless. They seem to have a natural talent for getting their voice heard and responding to conflicting situations and people on the spot.

This is not just a natural talent in many of us.

You can train to have it.

It’s something anyone can learn.

VERBAL SELF DEFENCE IS A COLLECTION OF TOOLS AND STRATEGIES THAT HAVE BEEN STUDIED AND PROVED IN ORDER TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM VERBAL ATTACKS AND AGGRESIVE COMMUNICATORS, WHILST KEEPING YOUR EMOTIONAL BALANCE AND NOT LETTING SITUATIONS ESCALATE

Why can it be Hard to Set Boundaries and to Defend Ourselves from Abusive Language?

Since a very early age, a majority of us have been educated in order to fit in with others and make them feel at ease.

Sometimes it can be through adherence to certain codes of conduct and respect for others, and other times it requires us to step outside our personal boundaries as children and adapting to certain social conventions.

It could have been that we where asked to kiss family members we did not want to. Or that we had our emotions invalidated be beind told we shouldn't cry, or not be angry. We then learnt that some emotions are negative, and we should not express them in order not to offend others.

It is only normal that we find it hard to set up boundaries with others as we grew up. We don't want to hurt others. But sometimes we end up hurting ourselves.

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Typically, as children we learnt that we shouldn’t express a full range of emotions in certain social contexts. Being unfamiliar with these contexts, it can sometimes be not easy to manage them when they happen and we can be in a position where we explode or react very angrily in a way that can make aggression escalate and make things even more difficult for us.

At the other extreme of it, certain verbal attacks can leave us feeling powerless and unable to speak. We would rather withdraw and not deal with them, and sometimes this is not even a choice, but we literally can´t speak out. Or we need so much time to be able to articulate that we lose momentum, and only get our voice back when is too late and the attacker is not present or we have lost the opportunity to reply.

We have learnt so much to put other people’s feelings ahead of our own needs so that sometimes we don’t even notice what our boundaries are, or how to clearly set them. Ultimately, this will end up affects the feelings of others too.

How This Programme Helps You to Deal with Verbal Attacks and Conflicts and to Handle Unwanted Behaviour :

This course provides you with strategies and practical activities for clarifying your boundaries and getting others to respect them.

The Programme

is centred on the concept on Verbal Self Defence, and integrates expression and embodied practices in a natural way.

This means that

it won't be a collection of tips and tricks to help you 'gain' an argument, but a useful method to re-establish peace wich will become part of your communication style.

YOU WILL LEARN TO USE A NUMBER OF TOOLS THAT WORK AT TWO LEVELS
 

ONE, AS EFFECTIVE WAY TO DEAL WITH CONFLICT AND THE VERBAL ATTACK

TWO, THERE IS POTENTIAL TO PREVENT SITUATIONS LIKE THOSE HAPENNING MORE OFTEN

We will also work ON ways to deal with our own emotions processing this situations.

 We will learn and practice:

Use of Anger

How Anger is very a valid feeling and what we can learn from it

 Disagreement

Separate from your position, 

and move forward

Microagression

Recognise microaggression, see their impact and practice micro interventions

Balance

Keep it by noticing resistance and navigating your emotion

Backhanded praise

How backhanded compliments work and what can we do bout them

Supervised Practice

Get group exercises, activities and supervised support

Keep Centred

Techniques to keep connected to your body and  calm yourself

Response

Group practice  responding to  attacks with a variety of tools 

Attack Awareness

Some attacks are easy to notice, but others are not that obvious. 

Unfreeze

Some attacks can leave us paralysed, physically and with nothing in mind to say. 

Dealing with Emotions

Going through and processing the emotions that an attack can give us.

Redirecting Attack

Deflect the attack, and at the same time show empathy

When it comes to talking about harassment and verbal abuse, many women will feel comfortable in an all-women space. You can have this course delivered exclusively for groups of women where we will tackle in most specific ways issues that we experience. Although verbal self-defence should never be a way to deal with a threat of physical harm, we will tackle frequently asked questions and deal with situations such as managing unwanted attention and invasive behaviour.

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